16 Lessons I learnt After Losing My Virginity at 16 By Anna Kemarch

16 Lessons I learnt After Losing My Virginity at 16 By Anna Kemarch.

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45 Things a Girl Wont Ask For.

1. Touch her waist.
2. Actually talk to her.
3. Share secrets with her.
4. Give her your jacket.
5. Kiss her slowly.
6. Hug her.
7. Hold her.
8. Laugh with her.
9. Invite her somewhere.
10. Hangout with her and your
friends together.
11. Smile with her.
12. Take pictures with her.
13. Pull her onto your lap.
14. When she says she loves you
more, deny it. Fight back.
15. When her friends say i love her
more than you, deny it. fight back
and hug her tight so she can’t get
to her friends. it makes her feel
16. Always hug her and say I love
you whenever you see her.
17. Kiss her unexpectedly.
18. Hug her from behind around
the waist.
19. Tell her she’s beautiful.
20. Tell her the way you feel about
21. Open doors for her, walk her to
her car-
it makes her feel protected, plus it
never hurts to act like a gentleman.
22. Tell her she’s your everything –
only if you mean it.
23. If it seems like there is
something wrong, ask her- if she
denies something being wrong, it
ABOUT IT- so just hug her
24. Make her feel loved.
25-kiss her in front of OTHER girls
you know!!!!
26-don’t lie to her.
27-DON’T cheat on her.
28-take her ANYWHERE she wants
29-txt messege or call her in the
morning and tell her have a good
day at work {or school}, and how
much you MISS her.
30-be there for her when ever she
needs you, & even when she
doesn’t need you, just be there so
she’ll know that she can ALWAYS
count on you.
31. Hold her close when she’s cold
so she can hold YOU too.
32. When you are ALONE hold her
close and kiss her.
33. Kiss her on the CHEEK; (it will
give her the hint that you want to
kiss her).
34. While in the movies, put your
arm around her and then she will
automatically put her head on your
shoulder, then lean in and tilt her
chin up and kiss her LIGHTLY.
35. Dont EVER tell her to leave even
jokingly or act like you’re mad. If
shes upset, comfort her.
36. When people DISS her, stand up
for her.
37. Look deep into her EYES and tell
her you love her.
38. Lay down under the STARS and
put her head on your chest so she
can listen to the steady beat of
your heart, Link your fingers
together while you whisper to her
as she rests her eyes and listens to
39. When walking next to each
other grab her HAND.
40. When you hug her HOLD her in
your arms as long as possible
41. Call or text her at night to wish
42. COMFORT her when she cries
and wipe away her tears.
43. Take her for LONG walks at
44. ALWAYS Remind her how much
you love her.
45.sit on top of her and tell her
how much u love her and then
bend down to her face and kiss
her while sitting on her.

I saw this on Facebook and decided to share it. I dont know the source.

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Sexuality and Etiquettes

Hypoactive sexual desire disorder
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Hypoactive sexual desire disorder
Classification and external resources
ICD-10 F52.0
ICD-9 302.71
MeSH D020018
Hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) is considered as a sexual dysfunction and is characterized as a lack or absence of sexual fantasies and desire for sexual activity, as judged by a clinician. For this to be regarded as a disorder, it must cause marked distress or interpersonal difficulties and not be better accounted for by another mental disorder, a drug (legal or illegal), or some other medical condition.
HSDD is listed under the Sexual and Gender Identity Disorders of the DSM-IV.[1] It was first included in the DSM-III under the name Inhibited Sexual Desire Disorder,[2] but the name was changed in the DSM-III-R.
There are various subtypes. HSDD can be general (general lack of sexual desire) or situational (still has sexual desire, but lacks sexual desire for current partner), and it can be acquired (HSDD started after a period of normal sexual functioning) or life-long (the person has always had no/low sexual desire.)

In the early versions of the DSM, there were only two sexual dysfunctions listed: frigidity (for women) and impotence (for men).
In 1970, Masters and Johnson published their book Human Sexual Inadequacy[3] describing sexual dysfunctions, though these included only dysfunctions dealing with the function of genitals such as premature ejaculation and impotence for men, and anorgasmia and vaginismus for women. Prior to Masters and Johnson’s research, female orgasm was assumed by some to originate primarily from vaginal, rather than clitoral, stimulation. Consequently, feminists have argued that “frigidity” was “defined by men as the failure of women to have vaginal orgasms”.[4]
Following this book, sex therapy increased throughout the 1970s. Reports from sex-therapists about people with low sexual desire are reported from at least 1972, but labeling this as a specific disorder did not occur until 1977.[5] In that year, sex therapists Helen Singer Kaplan and Harold Lief independently of each other proposed creating a specific category for people with low or no sexual desire. Lief named it “Inhibited Sexual Desire,” and Kaplan named it “Hypoactive Sexual Desire.” The primary motivation for this was that previous models for sex therapy assumed certain levels of sexual interest in one’s partner and that problems were only caused by abnormal functioning/non-functioning of the genitals or performance anxiety but that therapies based on those problems were ineffective for people who did not sexually desire their partner.[6] The following year, 1978, Lief and Kaplan together made a proposal to the APA’s taskforce for sexual disorders for the DSM III, of which Kaplan and Lief were both members. The diagnosis of Inhibited Sexual Desire (ISD) was added to the DSM when the 3rd edition was published in 1980.[7]
For understanding this diagnosis, it is important to recognize the social context in which it was created. In some cultures, low sexual desire may be considered normal and high sexual desire is problematic. For example, sexual desire may be lower in East Asian populations than Euro-Canadian/American populations.[8] In other cultures, this may be reversed. Some cultures try hard to restrain sexual desire. Others try to excite it. Concepts of “normal” levels of sexual desire are culturally dependent and rarely value-neutral. In the 1970s, there were strong cultural messages that sex is good for you and “the more the better.” Within this context, people who were habitually uninterested in sex, who in previous times may not have seen this as a problem, were more likely to feel that this was a situation that needed to be fixed. They may have felt alienated by dominant messages about sexuality and increasingly people went to sex-therapists complaining of low sexual desire. It was within this context that the diagnosis of ISD was created.[9]
In the revision of the DSM-III, published in 1987 (DSM-III-R), ISD was subdivided into two categories: Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder and Sexual Aversion Disorder (SAD).[10] The former is a lack of interest in sex and the latter is a phobic aversion to sex. In addition to this subdivision, one reason for the change is that the committee involved in revising the pyschosexual disorders for the DSM-III-R thought that term “inhibited” suggests psychodynamic etiology (i.e. that the conditions for sexual desire are present, but the person is, for some reason, inhibiting their own sexual interest.) The term “hypoactive sexual desire” is more awkward, but more neutral with respect to the cause.[11] The DSM-III-R estimated that about 20% of the population had HSDD.[12] In the DSM-IV (1994), the criterion that the diagnosis requires “marked distress or interpersonal difficulty” was added.

Low sexual desire alone is not equivalent to HSDD because of the requirement in HSDD that the low sexual desire causes marked distress and interpersonal difficulty and because of the requirement that the low desire is not better accounted for by another disorder in the DSM or by a general medical problem. It is therefore difficult to say exactly what causes HSDD. It is easier to describe, instead, some of the causes of low sexual desire.
In men, though there are theoretically more types of HSDD/low sexual desire, typically men are only diagnosed with one of three subtypes.
Lifelong/generalized: The man has little or no desire for sexual stimulation (with a partner or alone) and never has.
Acquired/situational: The man was previously sexually interested in his present partner but now lacks sexual interest in them but has desire for sexual stimulation (i.e. alone or with someone other than his present partner.)
Acquired/generalized: The man previously had sexual interest in his present partner, but lacks interest in sexual activity, partnered or solitary.
Though it can sometimes be difficult to distinguish between these types, they do not necessarily have the same etiology. The cause of lifelong/generalized HSDD is unknown. In the case of acquired/generalized low sexual desire, possible causes include various medical/health problems, psychiatric problems, low levels of testosterone or high levels of prolactin. One theory suggests that sexual desire is controlled by a balance between inhibitory and excitatory factors.[13] This is thought to be expressed via neurotransmitters in selective brain areas. A decrease in sexual desire may therefore be due to an imbalance between neurotransmitters with excitatory activity like dopamine and norepinephrine and neurotransmitters with inhibitory activity, like serotonin.[14] The, New York-based, “New View Campaign” organization has expressed skepticism about too much emphasis on explanations based on Neurotransmitters because emphasis on such explanations have been made largely by “educational” efforts funded by Boehringer-Ingelheim while it was attempting to get the FDA to approve a drug affecting neurotransmitters for treatment for HSDD.[15] Low sexual desire can also be a side effect of various medications. In the case of acquired/situational HSDD, possible causes include intimacy difficulty, relationship problems, sexual addiction, and chronic illness of the man’s partner. The evidence for these is somewhat in question. Some claimed causes of low sexual desire are based on empirical evidence. However, some are based merely on clinical observation.[16] In many cases, the cause of HSDD is simply unknown.[17]
The usefulness of the current nosology in the DSM-IV-TR has been criticized for not taking seriously the differences between male and female sexuality (see section on criticism.) Still, there are some factors that are believed to be possible causes of HSDD in women. As with men, various medical problems, psychiatric problems (such as mood disorders), or increased amounts of prolactin can cause HSDD. Other hormones are believed to be involved as well. Additionally, factors such as relationship problems or stress are believed to be possible causes of reduced sexual desire in women.[18] According to one recent study examining the affective responses and attentional capture of sexual stimuli in women with and without HSDD, women with HSDD do not appear to have a negative association to sexual stimuli, but rather a weaker positive association than women without HSDD [19]

HSDD, like many sexual dysfunctions, is something that people are treated for in the context of a relationship. Theoretically, one could be diagnosed with, and treated for, HSDD without being in a relationship. However, relationship status is the most predictive factor accounting for distress in women with low desire and distress is required for a diagnosis of HSDD.[20] Therefore, it is common for both partners to be involved in therapy. Typically, the therapist tries to find a psychological or biological cause of the HSDD. Sometimes this is possible and sometimes it is not. If the HSDD is organically caused, the clinician may try to deal with that. If the clinician believes it is rooted in a psychological problem, they may recommend therapy for that. If not, treatment generally focuses more on relationship and communication issues, improved communication (verbal and nonverbal), working on non-sexual intimacy, or education about sexuality may all be possible parts of treatment. Sometimes problems occur because people have unrealistic perceptions about what normal sexuality is and are concerned that they do not compare well to that, and this is one reason why education can be important. If the clinician thinks that part of the problem is a result of stress, techniques may be recommended to more effectively deal with that. Also, it can be important to understand why the low level of sexual desire is a problem for the relationship because the two partners may associate different meaning with sex but not know it.[21]
In the case of men, the therapy may depend on the subtype of HSDD. Increasing the level of sexual desire of a man with lifelong/generalized HSDD is unlikely. Instead the focus may be on helping the couple to adapt. In the case of acquired/generalized, it is likely that there is some biological reason for it and the clinician may attempt to deal with that. In the case of acquired/situational, some form of psychotherapy may be used, possibly with the man alone and possibly together with his partner.[16]
As neurotransmitters and sex hormones have modulatory function on sexual desire, treatment intervention has been evaluated in multiple clinical trials. Intrinsa is a testosterone patch that works by releasing the hormone testosterone through the skin into the bloodstream. It is licensed by Procter & Gamble for the use in post-menopausal women with surgical menopause who are also receiving estrogen replacement therapy. Flibanserin, a 5-HT1A receptor agonist and 5-HT2A receptor antagonist, has been investigated by Boehringer Ingelheim as a novel, non-hormonal treatment for pre-menopausal women with Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD). Development on this medication has since been discontinued by the company.[22] Preclinical evidence suggested that flibanserin targets these receptors preferentially in selective brain areas and helps to restore a balance between inhibitory and excitatory effects.[23][24]

HSDD, as currently defined by the DSM has come under criticism of the social function of the diagnosis.
HSDD could be seen a part of a history of the medicalization of sexuality by the medical profession to define normal sexuality.[25] It may also over pathologize normal variation in sexuality because the parameters of normality are unclear. This lack of clarity is partly due to the fact that the terms “persistent” and “recurrent” do not have clear operational definitions. [26]
HSDD may function to pathologize asexuals, though their lack of sexual desire may not be maladaptive.[27] Because of this, some members of the asexual community are lobbying the mental health community working on the DSM-V to regard asexuality as a legitimate sexual orientation rather than a mental disorder.[28]
Other criticisms focus more on scientific and clinical issues.
HSDD is such a diverse group etiologically that it functions as little more than a starting place for clinicians to assess people.[29]
Research indicates a high degree of comorbidity between HSDD and female sexual arousal disorder. Therefore, a diagnosis combining the two might be more appropriate.[30]
The requirement that low sexual desire causes distress or interpersonal difficulty has been criticized. It has been claimed that it is not clinically useful because if it is not causing any problems, the person will not seek out a clinician.[29] One could claim that this criterion (for all of the sexual dysfunctions, including HSDD) decreases the scientific validity of the diagnoses or is a cover-up for a lack of data on what constitutes normal sexual function.[31]
The distress requirement is also criticized because the term “distress” lacks a clear definition. [32]
It is suggested that a duration criterion should be added because lack of interest in sex over the past month is significantly more common than lack of interest lasting six months. [33] Similarly, a frequency criterion (i.e., the symptoms of low desire be present in 75% or more of sexual encounters) has been suggested. [34] [35]
The current framework for HSDD is based on a linear model of human sexual response, developed by Masters and Johnson and modified by Kaplan consisting of desire, arousal, orgasm. The sexual dysfunctions in the DSM are based around problems at any one or more of these stages.[21] Many of the criticisms of the present DSM framework for sexual dysfunction in general, and HSDD in particular, claim that this models ignores the differences between male and female sexuality. Several criticisms are based on inadequacy of the current framework for dealing with women’s sexual problems.
Increasingly, evidence shows that there are significant differences between male and female sexuality. Level of desire is highly variable from woman to woman and there are some women who are considered sexually functional who have no active desire for sex, but they can erotically respond well in contexts they find acceptable. This has been termed “responsive desire” as opposed to spontaneous desire.[21]
The focus on merely the physiological ignores the social, economic and political factors including sexual violence and lack of access to sexual medicine or education throughout the world affecting women and their sexual health.[36]
The focus on the physiological ignores the relationship context of sexuality despite the fact that these are often the cause of sexual problems.[36]
The focus on discrepancy in desire between two partners may result in the partner with the lower level of desire being labeled as “dysfunctional,” but the problem really sits with difference between the two partners. [37] However, within couples the assessment of desire tends to be relative. That is, individuals make judgments by comparing their levels of desire to that of their partner. [38]
The sexual problems that women complain of often do not fit well into the current DSM framework for sexual dysfunctions.[36]
The current system of sub-typing may be more applicable to one gender than the other.[16]
[edit]Recommended Revisions

Given criticisms of the current DSM classification, a new disorder combining the characteristics of HSDD and sexual arousal disorder has been proposed for the next version of the DSM (the DSM-V, due to be published in 2013). The name proposed for this disorder is Sexual Interest/Arousal Disorder. [39] The criteria proposed for diagnosing this disorder in women are: [40]
1. Lack of sexual interest/arousal of a least 6 months duration as manifest by at least four of the following indicators:
Absent/reduced interest in sexual activity
Absent/reduced sexual/erotic thoughts or fantasies
No initiation of sexual activity and is not receptive to a partner’s attempts to initiate
Absent/reduced sexual excitement/pleasure during sexual activity (on at least 75% or more of sexual encounters)
Desire is not triggered by any sexual/erotic stimulus (e.g., written, verbal, visual, ect.)
Absent/reduced genital and/or nongenital physical changes during sexual activity (on at least 75% or more of sexual encounters)
2. The disturbance causes clinically significant distress or impairment Specifier:
Lifelong or acquired
Generalized or situational
Partner factors (partner’s sexual problems, partner’s health status)
Relationship factors (e.g., poor communication, relationship discord, discrepancies in desire for sexual activity)
Individual vulnerability factors (e.g., depression or anxiety, poor body image, history of abuse experience)
Cultural/religious factors (e.g., inhibitions related to prohibitions against sexual activity)
Medical factors (e.g., illness/medications)
3. The sexual dysfunction is not better accounted for by another Axis 1 disorder (except for another Sexual Dysfunction) and is not due exclusively to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition.
This classification is desirable compared to the current DSM – IV classification system because: (1) it reflects the finding that desire and arousal tend to overlap (2) it differentiates between women who lack desire before the onset of activity, but who are receptive to initiation and or initiate sexual activity for reasons other than desire, and women who never experience sexual arousal (3) it takes the variability in sexual desire into account. Furthermore, the criterion of 4/6 symptoms be present for a diagnosis helps safeguard against pathologizing adaptive decreases in desire. [41] [42]
The limited research in male sexual desire has revealed that it may differ from female sexual arousal in some respects (e.g., tend to have higher masturbation frequency and often continue to masturbate despite low sexual desire [43] ), but that there are likely more within-gender than between-gender differences, there are three options under consideration for the diagnosis of low sexual desire in men: [44]
The DSM-IV-TR name and criteria be preserved for men in the DSM-V
Proposed criteria for Sexual Interest/Arousal Disorder in women be adopted for men (one gender neutral category)
The proposed criteria for Sexual Interest/Arousal Disorder be adopted for men with the modification that absence or reduced genital and/or non-genital physical changes not be included as criterion

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Work, sex and life

Is Sex Necessary?
Alan Farnham

Having regular and enthusiastic sex confers a host of measurable physiological advantages, be you male or female. (This assumes that you are engaging in sex without contracting a sexually transmitted disease.)

In one of the most credible studies correlating overall health with sexual frequency, Queens University in Belfast tracked the mortality of about 1,000 middle-aged men over the course of a decade. The study was designed to compare persons of comparable circumstances, age and health. Its findings, published in 1997 in the British Medical Journal, were that men who reported the highest frequency of orgasm enjoyed a death rate half that of the laggards. Other studies (some rigorous, some less so) purport to show that having sex even a few times a week has an associative or causal relationship with the following:

– Improved sense of smell: After sex, production of the hormone prolactin surges. This in turn causes stem cells in the brain to develop new neurons in the brain’s olfactory bulb, its smell center.

– Reduced risk of heart disease: In a 2001 follow-on to the Queens University study mentioned above, researchers focused on cardiovascular health. Their finding? That by having sex three or more times a week, men reduced their risk of heart attack or stroke by half. In reporting these results, the co-author of the study, Shah Ebrahim, Ph.D., displayed the well-loved British gift for understatement: “The relationship found between frequency of sexual intercourse and mortality is of considerable public interest.”

– Weight loss, overall fitness: Sex, if nothing else, is exercise. A vigorous bout burns some 200 calories–about the same as running 15 minutes on a treadmill or playing a spirited game of squash. The pulse rate, in a person aroused, rises from about 70 beats per minute to 150, the same as that of an athlete putting forth maximum effort. British researchers have determined that the equivalent of six Big Macs can be worked off by having sex three times a week for a year. Muscular contractions during intercourse work the pelvis, thighs, buttocks, arms, neck and thorax. Sex also boosts production of testosterone, which leads to stronger bones and muscles. Men’s Health magazine has gone so far as to call the bed the single greatest piece of exercise equipment ever invented.

– Reduced depression: Such was the implication of a 2002 study of 293 women. American psychologist Gordon Gallup reported that sexually active participants whose male partners did not use condoms were less subject to depression than those whose partners did. One theory of causality: Prostoglandin, a hormone found only in semen, may be absorbed in the female genital tract, thus modulating female hormones.

– Pain-relief: Immediately before orgasm, levels of the hormone oxytocin surge to five times their normal level. This in turn releases endorphins, which alleviate the pain of everything from headache to arthritis to even migraine. In women, sex also prompts production of estrogen, which can reduce the pain of PMS.

– Less-frequent colds and flu: Wilkes University in Pennsylvania says individuals who have sex once or twice a week show 30% higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, which is known to boost the immune system.

– Better bladder control: Heard of Kegel exercises? You do them, whether you know it or not, every time you stem your flow of urine. The same set of muscles is worked during sex.

– Better teeth: Seminal plasma contains zinc, calcium and other minerals shown to retard tooth decay. Since this is a family Web site, we will omit discussion of the mineral delivery system. Suffice it to say that it could be a far richer, more complex and more satisfying experience than squeezing a tube of Crest–even Tartar Control Crest. Researchers have noted, parenthetically, that sexual etiquette usually demands the brushing of one’s teeth before and/or after intimacy, which, by itself, would help promote better oral hygiene.

– A happier prostate? Some urologists believe they see a relationship between infrequency of ejaculation and cancer of the prostate. The causal argument goes like this: To produce seminal fluid, the prostate and the seminal vesicles take such substances from the blood as zinc, citric acid and potassium, then concentrate them up to 600 times. Any carcinogens present in the blood likewise would be concentrated. Rather than have concentrated carcinogens hanging around causing trouble, it’s better to evict them. Regular old sex could do the job. But if the flushing of the prostate were your only objective, masturbation might be a better way to go, especially for the non-monogamous male. Having sex with multiple partners can, all by itself, raise a man’s risk of cancer by up to 40%. That’s because he runs an increased risk of contracting sexual infections. So, if you want the all the purported benefits of flushing with none of the attendant risk, go digital. A study recently published by the British Journal of Urology International asserts that men in their 20s can reduce by a third their chance of getting prostate cancer by ejaculating more than five times a week.

While possession of a robust appetite for sex–and the physical ability to gratify it–may not always be the cynosure of perfect health, a reluctance to engage can be a sign that something is seriously on the fritz, especially where the culprit is an infirm erection.

Dr. J. Francois Eid, a urologist with Weill Medical College of Cornell University and New York Presbyterian Hospital, observes that erectile dysfunction is extension of vascular system. A lethargic member may be telling you that you have diseased blood vessels elsewhere in your body. “It could be a first sign of hypertension or diabetes or increased cholesterol levels. It’s a red flag that you should see your doctor.” Treatment and exercise, says Dr. Eid, can have things looking up again: “Men who exercise and have a good heart and low heart rate, and who are cardio-fit, have firmer erections. There very definitely is a relationship.”

But is there such a thing as too much sex?

The answer, in purely physiological terms, is this: If you’re female, probably not. If you’re male? You betcha.

Dr. Claire Bailey of the University of Bristol says there is little or no risk of a woman’s overdosing on sex. In fact, she says, regular sessions can not only firm a woman’s tummy and buttocks but also improve her posture.

Dr. George Winch Jr., an obstetrician/gynecologist in Elko, Nev., concurs. If a woman is pre-menopausal and otherwise healthy, says Dr. Winch, her having an extraordinary amount of intercourse ought not to pose a problem. “I don’t think women can have too much intercourse,” he says, “so long as no sexually transmitted disease is introduced and there’s not an inadvertent pregnancy. Sometimes you can have a lubrication problem. If you have that, there can be vaginal excoriation–vaginal scrape.”

Women who abstain from sex run some risks. In postmenopausal women, these include vaginal atrophy. Dr. Winch has a middle-aged patient of whom he says: “She hasn’t had intercourse in three years. Just isn’t interested. The opening of her vagina is narrowing from disuse. It’s a condition that can lead to dysparenia, or pain associated with intercourse. I told her, ‘Look, you’d better buy a vibrator or you’re going to lose function there.'”

As for men, urologist Eid says it’s definitely possible to get too much of a good thing, now that drugs such as Viagra and Levitra have given men far more staying power than may actually be good for them.

The penis, says Eid, is wonderfully resilient. But everything has its limits. Penile tissues, if given too roistering or prolonged a pummeling, can sustain damage. In cases you’d just as soon not hear about, permanent damage.

“Yes,” says Dr. Eid, “It is possible for a young man who is very forceful and who likes rough sex, to damage his erectile tissue.” The drugs increase rigidity; moreover, they make it possible for a man to have second and third orgasms without having to wait out intermission.

“I see it in pro football players,” says Eid. “They use Viagra because they’re so sexually active. What they demand of their body is unreasonable. It’s part of playing football: you play through the pain.” This type of guy doesn’t listen to his body. He takes a shot of cortisone, and keeps on going. And they have sex in similar fashion.”

There’s a reason the penis, in its natural state, undergoes a period of flaccidity: That’s when it takes a breather. The blood within it is replenished with oxygen. “During an erection,” explains Eid, “very little blood flows to the penis. During thrusting, pressure can go as high as 200 mil of water. Zero blood flows into penis at that time.” To absorb oxygen, the tissue must become relaxed. “If you do not allow the penis to rest, then the muscle tissue does not get enough oxygen. The individual gets prolonged erections, gets decreased oxygen to tissue, and could potentially suffer priapism.” (We recommend you get a medical encyclopedia and look it up.) “The muscle becomes so engorged, it’s painful. Pressure inside starts to increase. Cells start dying. More pressure and less blood flow. Eventually the muscle dies. Then there’s scarring. That’s why it’s considered an emergency.”

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Sexual Health Etiquette

Scientific research has proved that sex is the latest strength hymn. Research has proved that ladies and gentlemen who have sex more often are healthier compared to their colleagues who abstain for long durations of time. It is through sexual intercourse that every human being was conceived. It is therefore not a crime in anyway. It is the major issue that has contributed to progression of human beings from one age to the other. It is a basic need for every human being and the driving force behind male and female relationship. Apart from the enjoyment that one derives from sex, there is also keeps an individual in good health. Some of the advantages of sex that would keep an individual in good shape and well include:

1) Sex is one of the most efficient methods of cutting surplus body fats. The vigorous process that is involved during the intercourse usually leads to melting of additional fats which then improves the body organization and keeps off heart related illnesses that are always as a result of extra fats.

2) Cardiovascular illnesses that are usually as a result of excess cholesterol in the body may also be avoided by keeping the amount of cholesterol in the body to the recommended level. During sexual intercourse, a lot of cholesterol are destroyed which is important in maintaining the cholesterol level to the required amount. This will also help avoid heart illnesses.

3) Sexual intercourse also boosts the body resistant against diseases in ladies and gentlemen who does it on a regular basis. It leads to the manufacturer of the anti body known as the Immunoglubin A which helps ladies and gentlemen to fight off diseases and stay free from infections like pneumonia and bronchitis. The body ability to fight off cold is very strong in couples who practice sex on a regular basis than their counterparts who do not.

4) Sexual intercourse also ensures that the body blood pressure is within the allowed limits. Couples who have sex regular do not suffer from pressure related illnesses like the high blood pressure and the low blood pressure. Sexual intercourse also regulates the body minerals to the required amount and this helps in keeping the blood pressure on check.

5) The rate of Atherosclerosis is always very few and far between in people who have the intercourse consistently. Atherosclerosis is usually as a result of the deposition of tablets in blood carrying veins that supply blood to the penis. The situation may always lead to heart problems if not treated early enough. However, sexual intercourse improves the circulation of blood to the whole body thus tablets deposited in the veins that carry blood to the penis can be cleared off. Sexual intercourse therefore enables an individual to live atherosclerosis free life.

6) When one is having sex, the body parts like the thighs, buttocks, pelvic muscles, neck, arms and thorax are usually strained out thus ensuring that the body is kept in first class figure. This has the added advantage of reducing fat related conditions like obesity.

7) Sexual intercourses enhance the release of prolactin which is a hormone responsible for the development of stem cells in an individual’s brain. This will lead to fresh neurons in the part of brain responsible for smell. Thus those who have sex on a regular basis have very sharp sense of smell.

8) It is very uncommon for ladies and gentlemen of have sex on a regular basis to complain of headaches. The body stimulation that normally occur during sexual intercourse leads to high levels of corticosteroids and endorphins that has been proved to prevent headaches on human beings.

9) The amount of blood sugar in an individual’s body may also be controlled by simply having sex on a regular basis. Research has proved that patients suffering from diabetes may reduce the amount of sugar levels in their body by having sexual intercourse 2 to 3 times in every seven days. Intercourse will also help the insulin to perform properly thus maintaining the sugar levels to the recommended amounts.

10) The high levels of oxytocin are always very common amongst the people who are addicted to sexual intercourse. This is important in the manufacture of endorphins that act as pain killers.

It is because of the above reasons that sexual intercourse may be termed as health tune.


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Relationship Etiquette

Will McClelland | April 23, 2012

10 Date Ideas So Cheap She Won’t Notice They’re Cheap

Let’s face it, these days dating can deliver an iron punch to the wallet. And since most women don’t enjoy sneaking into movies through the service entrance or dining and dashing in heels, other solutions are required — cheap solutions. It’s time to get creative with our dates, guys — and not go further into the red — so use what ya got. I recommend making a list of all the resources, places and experiences you have available to you and creating a date drawing on some or all of these things. When I found myself flat broke one summer evening, but with access to a small pickup truck, I took my date — a fiery Nova Scotian beauty named Clare — to a ski resort just outside of town. I cued up one of her favorite songs, pointed the truck straight up the grassy ski hill and hit blastoff. Dinner at the Ritz it was not, but it gave us something to talk about later. The point is, today’s man can show his date he’s a fun and considerate guy without breaking the bank. Here are a few suggestions.

1- Picnic

All you need for this date is one plaid blanket, two champagne glasses, something to drink and a packed lunch. Throw together whatever sandwiches you can muster, but be a gentleman and bring some strawberries for dessert. Raise a toast with something bubbly — soda water, cream soda, maybe even real champagne — anything that’ll dance in a slender glass.

2- Teach her to drive manual transmission

In my experience, most women who don’t drive stick shift nonetheless wish they knew how. Teaching your date this traditionally “manly” skill will both thrill and empower her — and, psst, Women love men who make them feel empowered. This date can pay off big time, and it costs almost nothing. All you need is access to a manual transmission vehicle (tractor trailers probably not a good idea), an empty parking lot and a bit of patience. Or a lot of patience, as the case may be.

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Work Etiquette

Dimitri A.C. Ly | April 23, 2012 What To Do When Your Boss Is An Idiot

Everyone who’s ever had a boss has experienced frustration, but most of the time managers earn their position based on intelligence. And sometimes the disgruntled employees are right — some bosses can be truly incompetent. There are as many types of bad bosses are there are bad people, but here are some common types, and the best ways to deal with having to work for them.

The Corporate Bully

Characteristics: Rude and drunk with power, corporate bullies will go out of their way to humiliate you in front of clients, colleagues and, of course, their own superiors. Their management strategy consists of making condescending remarks during performance reviews and threatening to fire you every time there’s a problem, whether or not you’re at fault. How to handle this incompetent boss: Dealing with incompetent bosses like the corporate bully can be challenging. The trick is to fly under your supervisor’s radar while drawing attention from the higher ups. Always stand up for yourself, but be subtle about it –a disapproving look can go a long way — and find a mentor who can expose you to new opportunities as well as shield you from your manager’s temper tantrums.

The Micromanager

Characteristics: Everyone is familiar with the saying: “If you want something done right, do it yourself.” Micromanagers live by it, nitpicking every aspect of your work, including the number of seconds by which you deviated from your scheduled break. Granted, they provide great support if you don’t mind having someone constantly checking on your progress, but if you value your independence, you’re in trouble. How to handle this incompetent boss: When dealing with incompetent bosses of the sort, it’s important you never appear as if you’re trying to usurp their authority. Micromanagers are typically insecure, so it’s best to keep them apprised of all your actions. However, only do so after the fact. The idea is to give your supervisor the illusion of control while remaining reasonably autonomous.

The Office Politician

Characteristics: Cowardly and duplicitous, office politicians always put their needs over those of the team. They may act like your best friend, but they’ll stab you in the back the minute you get too chummy with senior management. Broken promises, misinformation and stolen ideas are all par for the course when dealing with incompetent bosses of this kind. How to handle this incompetent boss: The best way to protect yourself against an office politician is to communicate in writing. That way, all your questions, requests and proposals become official record. If your boss tries to finalize the agreement verbally, follow it up with an e-mail confirmation, making sure to CC at least one other person in the company.

The Senior Enforcer

Characteristics: Usually promoted because of seniority, this type of boss is devoid of common sense, following procedures to the letter and shutting down every effort to innovate. Terrified of making a decision, senior enforcers also have trouble with the notion that maintaining employee morale is among their duties, so don’t expect any sort of flexibility. How to handle this incompetent boss: It’s important you remain solution-minded when dealing with incompetent bosses, especially those lacking initiative. However, keep in mind that senior enforcers are notoriously resistant to change, so don’t bother introducing any groundbreaking ideas until you have a few allies ready to back you up. It’s also best to wait for a large meeting before making your

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Relationship Etiquette – female

A woman needs to know her man respects her opinion. Her man protecting her from intruding family members, prying friends and the society.
A man who will be sensitive to her yearning & her feelings.
One who would not look down on her or judge her over her mistakes.
A man who is humble & who can apologise when he is wrong.
A man who will carry her along with his plans.
– Nhora

A woman wants to know dat she is loved, appreciated, needed. She wants to know that the man will protect her. She wants to know dat he knows where they are going and how they will get there. She wants to see how important their children is to him. She NEEDS to know dat no matter what happens, he will not stop loving her and they will be together thru d good and d bad and this depends on how they resolve their conflicts. When the children come, its harder to leave as they now become a major priority. Couples undergo a change at every major stage of marriage. It takes a commitment to make it work. She needs to know dat he too is committed to go d whole way.
– Dimbo

Every man should have a clear understanding of d importance of a woman, A man is d head of every home while d woman is d neck, and witout d neck, d head cannot stand. Men should be careful when it comes to having a woman ad keeping her cos its actually takes a lot to nurture a woman. Women are totally different fr men. First, women are like egg, men should handle them wit care, men should learn to be patient with any woman they have bcos most times is not what a man expects dt he gets fr a woman, most men always think they should only be respected dt women should be under dem ad as a result of dt miss out when it comes to caring for a woman. Relatnships are designed to multiply,increase, build up ad bring out d best in both men ad women. A man is expected to go extra miles in bringing out d best in a woman he has, not condemning her, abusing ad treating her like she not good, not finding fault in her, Men should be open to a woman, make her understand her worth to him ad traet her with respect. A woman needs praise,dey don’t joke with it, tell her how beautiful she is ad look at all times, Affirmation is very important to a woman, say it to her over ad over again, send her beautiful note just to remind her how much u care abt her. Lastly, Love her, with everything in u, Love is not a feeling bcos even when u don’t feel like, u have to if u really want to keep ur Woman. Buy her gifts , sing it like a song to her, appreciate a woman, be conscious of her emotions, pay attention to her feelings, if she complains abt smthin, take note of it. Ask for d grace of God for direction.

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Relationship Etiquette – Men

There are three things u can do to keep ur husband, no matter what. The three of them require a lot of work and sacrifice

One is his food. Give him his food without his asking. Men eat wit two distinct mouths. The visible mouth that u know and the other mouth (his penis). Feed him @ least every other day. Cooking food may not be difficult but I know offering sex might be very difficult. U might not always be in the mood. But make it part of ur house chores and make up ur mind to enjoy it. U might not always be in the mood but wen u remember that ur marriage is based on that, I think u will be forced into the mood. Men love women that ask them for sex. Men also love women that beg them to eat food

The second thing is 1 Timothy 2:11-12
11 A woman should learn in silence with full submission.
12 I do not allow a woman to teach or to have authority over a man; instead, she is to be silent.
Verse 15
But she will be saved through childbearing, if she continues in faith, love, and holiness, with good judgment.

* Have a lot of faith in ur husband, show him that u believe in him, trust him; men love women they can easily deceive. So become his mugu. Even wen u know its possible he is lying, believe him and show him u believe him. He might start with lying to you but he CANNOT continue to lie to u
* Love him and show him u love him. Go the extra mile to show that. Somethings, it might not be easy but it sure pays off wit time
* Make up ur mind to be holy unto him. He is the God u can see. God is his head, he is ur HEAD. Adore him as much as u will adore God. These are difficult things to do, it might take u time to master them but they sure pay off
* U need good judgement for him. Don’t judge him by the standards of other men, he is not other men, he is UR MAN!! Very important. Don’t compare him and any other person. Don’t even compare him and ur father! If u want him to be or behave like ur father, u should have as well married ur father. Don’t try to change him. Those things u want to change are the things that attracted you to him. Love the way he is. Find ways u can help sharpen who he is not ways to change who he is.

The third thing u need to keep ur husband is prayer.
Pray without ceasing. The continued unity of the home depends on how prayerful u are. His success at his work place depends on how well u can pray. If he is not succeeding at work, he will play out his frustration on you. Pray as if ur life depends on it bc truely, ue life depends on it.

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